The Fight That Matters Most

Dominating opponents is not real strength. No. Real strength lives in the pause between impulse and action.

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Two men erupted from their pickup trucks at a red light in Austin. Rain turned the asphalt into a slick stage as they threw wild punches, slipping and stumbling like amateur actors in a poorly rehearsed play. Traffic backed up behind them. Horns blared. Phones captured their humiliation for Instagram immortality.

Watching the video, I felt a familiar knot in my stomach. Recognition.

Those men in the rain? I used to be them.

Growing up in Chihuahua, I threw the same desperate punches at parties and bars. I told myself it was necessary, that I never started fights but had to finish them. That I had to defend myself. The narrative felt true at the time. Masculine. Inevitable.

I blamed everything external. The city's culture. The primitive environment. Other people's hostility. Animals fight because they follow pure instinct. They lack the consciousness to pause and consider alternatives.

But humans? We possess something animals don't. The ability to witness our own impulses. To step back and choose. Yet there I was, year after year, responding like a creature ruled by adrenaline and wounded pride.

The shift came gradually. Yoga taught me to observe my thoughts without becoming them. To feel anger without surrendering to it. As Paramahansa Yogananda wrote, yoga offers "self-control, calmness, determination." Qualities that transform reaction into response.

Now when I see those Austin fighters stumbling in the rain, I see my former self clearly. Two men convincing themselves that throwing punches makes them powerful, unaware they're broadcasting their powerlessness to the world.

Dominating opponents is not real strength. No. Real strength lives in the pause between impulse and action. Mastering the only territory you actually control. Your own response to whatever life presents. The fight that matters most happens within.